Summary of So we’ve been dating all wrong, science says.

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  Research shows that while it's easy to predict desired romantic partners, it's challenging to predict good ones. Traits like physical attractiveness, height, occupation, race, and religious affiliation are not strong indicators of romantic happiness, despite being considered desirable in online dating. The key distinction is between desire and happiness in relationships. While research can't guarantee a happy life together, therapy can help individuals understand themselves better and make healthier choices in relationships. BetterHelp offers accessible online therapy services to support individuals in their personal growth and relationship pursuits.

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  Online therapy with BetterHelp can be helpful for struggling relationships. Factors such as individual happiness before the relationship, growth mindset, perceived partner commitment, appreciation, sexual satisfaction, perceived partner satisfaction, and conflict can impact relationship satisfaction. Personality is not as crucial as the dynamic and conditions of the relationship that allow it to flourish. Attachment styles also play a role in relationship satisfaction.

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  The book is highly praised for its insight on relationships, self-awareness, and human interactions. Therapy helped in understanding attachment styles, which can be complex. A key advice for dating is to find a partner who is genuinely interested, empathetic, responsive, and makes you feel understood, valued, and cared for.